Using Distraction to Avoid

When we want to escape unrelenting, bothersome thoughts, relief comes by way of distraction. Submerging ourselves in some type of work or hobby, conversation with a friend or resorting to electronic devices are some tactics used to find reprieve. This pause to regroup can definitely help with changing perspective. However, when using distraction becomes a repetitive habit, then it’s more likely we are escaping something that we would rather not deal with. If we face our issues head on, we can break the cycle and make room for new possibilities to emerge.

Sometimes it feels better to use a distraction to avoid uncomfortable situations. Taking an honest look into these times can tell us quite a lot about what emotions we hold and how they affect our lives. Do we distract from boredom, anger, fear, sadness? What is the root cause of this emotion? Honestly identifying and vocalizing feelings associated with this hangup helps release its hold. It may not be comfortable or fun, but this is when we find out how we can shift our actions and attitude to reach beyond that which keeps us stuck.

Distraction is a powerful avoidance tactic. There are times when it’s necessary to move us out of a distressed state. However, if it’s continual avoidance, we will never truly move beyond those personal issues by consistently turning our attention away. Let’s take back our power to consciously choose our activities by facing those personal struggles and releasing them.

Action:
When do you turn toward distraction? Is it silence, fear, boredom, anger or sadness that triggers you? If you remained quiet and alone, what thoughts and emotions would stir? Do you reach for a device to fill in the space or to shift your mood? What need are these diversions fulfilling? It’s okay to want distraction. It’s a natural part of our coping mechanisms. However, if it’s a continual need because it is covering up discomfort, this is the time to be honest with yourself. Once you identify what’s driving the intolerance, sit with the feeling for five minutes, and identify it out loud. Ask yourself: What can I change? Repeat this activity each time the need for distraction arises. Solutions come about when you turn your attention to the problem. Sometimes the only answer comes with shifting perspective. How we view what happens in our lives dictates how well we live it. Doing this takes time, but it will be worth all of the effort when you find that instead of hiding behind a distraction you are doing something you love because you chose it.

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